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[moonwise]

The Pursuit of Teen Girl Purity

When Kylie was 13, her parents took her on a hike in Lake Tahoe, Calif. "We discussed what it means to be a teenager in today's world," she says. They gave her a charm for her bracelet--a lock in the shape of a heart. Her father has the key. "On my wedding day, he'll give it to my husband," she explains.

That's not phallic at all.

1. Are we also having Teen Boy Purity parties? What kinds of charms are exchanged to represent these mother and son vows?

2. Why is so much of the onus for remaining pure placed on the girls? (rhetorical question, because there's no physical indication of whether a boy is a virgin.)

Comments

[arafel.livejournal.com]

If the girl's not dressed modestly, the guy will have thoughts and struggle, ergo, the person with the problem is the woman. Not the guy. The girl.

Sadly, this pops up in many religions - orthodox Jewish women cover their bodies and wear (at the least) a snood. We've all seen burkas, of course, and both sexes of Mormons wear the longjohns (though the women have to wear the prairie dresses over 'em.)

The Japanese put an interesting spin on it with the layered Heian kimono sets, but then the suitor could consummate his relationship with the lady after an exchange of poetry and that was Just Fine.

[dougras.livejournal.com]

And one of the things I don't get is that, apparently, the woman is a sexless creature, since nobody is running around telling guys to cover up. Apparently the sight of a guy with his shirt off is not attractive in the least, or would in any way cause a girl to "stumble."

Guys can run around without shirts and, apparently, this is fine. A guy can wear swim trunks and that's okay. A speedo is probably Too Much (bulge!!) but he can run around with a good 70%-80% of his skin showing. A woman with 80% of her skin showing at the beach is Going Too Far.